We women dream
of a certain Prince Charming who will carry you onto his horse and whisk you
away into a land of Happily Ever After. Sadly, there are just a few women who
actually get the exact Prince Charming they have always dreamt of while others
are unfortunately being shifted from one bad relationship to another yet, they
still hope the bad guys can change for them or worse, they think they can
change the guys into their Dream Guys. Well, I got bad news for you. You cannot
change someone within a relationship. Before getting into the relationship, you
should have accepted the guy for who he is and not for whom you think he will
change into.
Let’s face it,
some guys appear angelic before the relationship and when they get into the
fray, their true colours are painted out and women, being the emotionally
available beings, suffer the pains of disillusion. In order to avoid getting
into such relationships, there are warning lights on the type of guys who would
dump your ass in the gutters someday. Enlisted below are 5 major types:
1.
EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE MEN
As corny as this
may seem, let me just ask a question. What do women who date married men, hope
to get from the relationship? All the good stuff found in this guy has been
given to his wife and family. All you would get would be chaffs of affection
and not the entire deal which every woman deserves. In short, MARRIED MEN ARE TO BE AVOIDED EXTREMELY
BECAUSE THEY ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE FOR SINGLE WOMEN!!!
Secondly, there are more little boys than real men out there. True enough – look
anywhere, and you'll see that around 90% of the men you meet aren't really
ready for a serious relationship (even when they tell you they are). They are
players. Believe me, such guys are not worth the trouble of banging your head against
your pillow over. Most women prefer “bad boys” who create their own rules or
break the rules because they are more fun than guys who follow all the rules
just to make you happy. Well, don’t just bask in the short-lived moment of fun
you have with the “bad boys”, rather look at the long term effects such
relationships will have on you. If your end goal is to find love and happiness, keep that goal right in
front of you to block out fear and anything that would stand in the way of your
happiness. You WILL get there.
2.
SELFISH MEN:
Selfish
men can be described in a variety of ways. However, regardless of how you chose
to describe them it all comes back to the same meaning, it’s all about them.
Every single aspect of your relationship will be dictated by his quest to
fulfill his own needs. You will always be second when it comes to his
needs being taken care of. You’ll quickly discover that with this type of man
you are simply there to please him and to hell with you.
He refuses to come and see you on his day off, but always has time to go
hang out with his boys. He’s also the guy who lives by the mantra that he can
do as he please in the relationship, however he criticizes you for what you do.
3.
THE DREAMER:
This
list includes men whom capture you with their aspirations to be “Rock Stars”,”
Actors”, “Rappers” or some other type of star that will make them tons of money
and unfortunately leave you out in the cold. These men will do whatever it
takes to get what they want out of life with the exception of holding down a
steady job to assist you with keeping a roof over your heads or putting food on
the table.
Oh and the main reason he’ll leave you behind? Because he’s just like
the man I described above, he’s selfish!
4.
THE
MUMMYS’ BOYS:
It’s
ok to love your mom, don’t get me wrong but when you allow your mother to
dictate to you who you should date it’s a serious problem.
There
are men who have been exiled out of families because of the woman they chose to
date. It sounds crazy but it happens. However, when these issues happen I blame
him because as a man he hasn’t shown his mother that he is capable of making a
sound decision on his own. He’s failed to show her that he is an adult and that
this is his life and the woman he chose should be accepted because he and only
he has the right to decide who is good enough for him.
Mothers mean well, however she needs to understand that if she is not
happy with his selection then she too is at fault because he is simply working
off of the values she instilled in him. As a woman, why would you share your
bed with a man who doesn’t have the intestinal fortitude (guts) to inform his
mom and family that you are the one that makes him happy and you are the one
that he will be keeping. If he cannot do that for the love of you, then you
need to kick his sorry ass to the curb because he is exactly the type of man
you want to avoid, a mummy’s boy, pretending to be a man.
5.
THE CONTROL FREAK:
Many women have
had their lives turned upside down by a control freak. He has an overwhelming
desire to control every detail, even when it’s out of his hands—be it the
weather, traffic or your life. Sincerely speaking most women like a guy that is
manly, but manly isn’t the same as domineering. These kind of guys are addicted
to control and being in command. They don’t believe a woman has a say in
anything. Before you know it, you soon start to lose your identity and become a
creation of his. That isn’t love; it’s a dysfunction and you need to believe
it. So ladies BEWARE. Avoid being a puppet of a guy’s insecurity.
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