You know
that moment when the person you love with all your being leaves you for another
person? The feeling of pain is so numbing it seems like the pain is never going
to be over. I have been there and felt that and I bet you there is no physical
pain that can compare to heartache. And month after month passes and everything
that you see around you reminds you of this person who has left you or maybe
you are the one who did the leaving. If you left him/her, then you must have
had valid reasons why you left. But it’s much more difficult to move on than
you thought and you know you need to move on. So what do you need to do to
finally be rid of this person or their memories still ingrained in your mind?
Some breakups are easy to get over and some are not. Below are a few tips on
how to get over the difficult one
BREAK OFF ALL CONTACT
I know this is the last thing you
want to do now. You want to stay around and you are hoping that this person may
come to and change. The period after a breakup is usually a time when most
people seem to only have good memories of the relationship. Even if the partner
they are separated from cheated on them, they somehow just switch off those bad
memories and we want to believe the best. But you have to break of all contact
no matter how difficult this is for you. If you need to block them off from
your social media accounts and delete or block their numbers, DO! The only way
to forget this person is to stop all contact. It will be hard at first but as
time goes on it will get easier till they are nothing but a faint memory.
GET WITH YOUR LIFE
This is also the time for you to
focus on your life. You know some relationships just consume you and you focus
on the person so much that you lose yourself in the process. Get back to your
life and do those things you’ve always wanted to do but have not done. Follow
your dreams, start a business, take dance lessons, lose some weight, travel,
write a book. Heck! Just get busy with your life. The busier you get, the
easier it is to forget that person. As you get more successful in the things
you do, you will regain the confidence you lost as a result of the breakup and
feel much better about yourself without that person
GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS
Was your ex boyfriend/girlfriend the
person you spent most of your time with? That may be the reason why it’s so
difficult to get over them. Call up your buddies, your girlfriends and get out
of your room and have fun. There is more to life, and until you really look around,
you won’t be able to see the good things you have around you and some of those
good things are your friends. Resist the temptation to lock yourself up in your
room and cry. Love your life and have fun with the people who are still in your
life.
DO INNER WORK
Yep, this point is the last on my
list but it’s not the least on my list. Actually, it’s the most important
point. There are some things in us, some character traits or attitudes that may
have attracted the kinds of relationships we have attracted so far. It could
even be our belief system, something we believe about ourselves. Remember, we
only attract what we think of, and this could either be subconscious or
conscious. So work on your inside and change your belief system and attitudes.
Work on your spirit man. Meditate on the word of God, the Bible. Go to church
and get encouragement and spiritual nourishment so that you can know who you
are and attract the right people into your life.
I hope this
was helpful to you. If you have a question, leave it below as a comment and we
will do our best to answer. Share on!
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